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What's In My Bag

When we were born - we were a blank slate. We didn't know what was right and wrong. We had no judgement - of others, of the world, and most importantly, of ourselves.

As we grow, we learn, and we put this knowledge in a bag that we believe are truths. We carry this around, and we live our life through this filter.


  1. I believed that any type of conflict was bad.

  2. I believed perfectionism was something to always strive for.

  3. I believed that compromise was the only positive action to take when things got tough.

It's not to say these beliefs are wrong. It has gotten me to where I am today, and I am grateful. With that being said, it also made me feel incredibly safe and comfortable.

  1. It made me scared to ask for what I wanted because I avoided conflict at all cost.

  2. I also spent a lot of energy being stuck (and never showing up) because it wasn't "perfect" yet.

  3. Most importantly, there's a part of compromise that is about giving up something to keep the peace (or meet in the middle). Sometimes we're just "fine" and "okay", but it can breed a mediocre life. What if there are better options out there?

There's a lot of stuff in my bag that narrowed my perspectives of what I could achieve, and therefore limited my options for choice.

Personal development is a life journey... even though I feel so self-aware, I am still pulling stuff out of my bag, examining it, and challenging it.

As I continue to dig and let go of the things that no longer serve me, I take one step closer to remembering who I really am.

If you're curious to know what's in your bag, what's keeping you safe, or what's holding you back - book a Discovery Session with me. The support of a life coach can really help to accelerate this process - often times we don't even realize it's a filter (a learned perspective) because it is so deep-seated in our minds that it's the truth.

I'll end this post with this...

Can you remember who you were,

before the world told you who you should be?


Mandy Wong, CPC, ELI-MP

Tel: 416-712-7129

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